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The 5 Negative Love Languages
You have probably heard of the Five Love Languages. These are the Five Negative Love Languages.
These might be hard and harsh. If any or all of these five negative love languages are all there is in relationship, that is detrimental. The point though is, these are also part of a healthy relationship because they are part of realty. Relationships are messy and require grace and mercy plus awareness of your partner’s needs and your own needs.
1. Words of Affirmation VS Know when to say nothing, especially when I know I messed up – not saying “I told you so” is very much appreciated!
2. Acts of Service VS If you need something done and can do it, do it yourself instead waiting on me – especially if you will do a better job!
3. Receiving Gifts VS If you want something, realize I am probably oblivious so just buy it yourself – and then thank me for “giving” it to you!
4. Quality Time VS Know when to leave me alone – it is not about you, it is about me so don’t take it personally.
5. Physical Touch VS Know that I want you around, but sometimes from a distance – just being “around” is comforting.
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